Deposit THIS into your behavior bank account-->

One of my favorite ways to talk about your behavioral relationship with you children is to relate it to a bank account that houses positive interactions.


These positive interactions are the number one currency when it comes to developing relationships and managing our children's challenging behavior.


Every time you engage positively with your child, you make a deposit into this account. Conversely, every time you have to give your child feedback or deliver a reprimand, this counts as a withdrawal.


The more genuine and impactful the positive interaction, the bigger the deposit. The more harsh and negative the reprimand, the bigger the withdrawal.


It must be our goal as parents to work to keep our behavioral bank account balance in the positive because this is the currency with which we need to use to address challenging behavior.


If we attempt to make a withdrawal where there is nothing left in the account, the debt starts to build and our children...

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Larkin's Skin Journey

My goal in 2019 was to bring more awareness to our middle daughter, Larkin, and her skin. If you or your child has had constant eczema, and it seems to progressively get worse with the stopping of any type of cream or medication given. I encourage you to give this a listen. And maybe you think it goes away with diet change, which sometimes that is the case.

But if you really chart the medication you put on, and when the skin starts to look worse, is it when the food you ingest is different? Or is it when you have stopped using the steroids? Another thing is that steroids are immunosuppressants, which means they are a class of drugs that suppress, or reduce, the strength of the body's immune system. Causing new allergies to appear. (Ever felt like there are legit on 4 foods that you can "tolerate" or your child "reacts" to everything...) After stopping the steroids, Larkin is no longer allergic to all 10 things that suddenly she tested for that she was when we applying the...

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The Power of Redirection


One of the most enticing aspects of challenging behavior is the want to take it head on.

The want to meet force with force and stop it dead in its tracks.

While this may be effective for some kiddos and even necessary when behavior is dangerous, other times this approach can leave you and your child frustrated and exhausted. 


This concept plays out daily with our toddler Callan.

Given the fact that he is 18-months old, has limited language and is too young to respond to rules or a sticker chart, his behavior is constantly communicating his wants and needs to us.

One of Callan’s favorite things to do is “help” clean around the house and at our gym. The vacuum, the mop, the broom, are all instruments of joy for him.  


At first this fixation was adorable. He would follow me around while I vacuumed and moped the floors at the gym with strong observational focus acting as my young custodial apprentice. 


After a few times of...

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What the heck is ABA? By Ty Krueger

When I started college, I wanted to become a pharmacist. I always had a fascination with the sciences and loved exploring the cause and effect nature of the world. I also had a strong motivation to have the nicest car in the parking lot and it seemed every time I would pull into our local Walgreens, that car would belong to the pharmacist. What I quickly came to realize as I entered my second semester in college is that my love for science did not over ride my strong dislike for math and I began to question my chosen field of study. During this same semester I was enrolled in your classic Psych 101 course and got introduced to the basics of behaviorism. What I learned in that class forever changed the trajectory of my life.


Although behaviorism is nestled in with the rest of psychology, it is actually a science that looks at variables and draws conclusions based on data. In short it can be summarized as the science of learning.  Since the early 20th century, behavior...

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Pairing with Reinforcement By Ty Krueger

Do you understand the basic concepts of reinforcement, have had some short term success controlling challenging behavior with a system but wish your child would simply listen without having to leverage stickers and prizes all the time?


That's a big heck yes for me and nearly every parent group we work with!


We know that using reinforcement works; however, we also know that it takes work to do it right and we don't want to rely on using it forever.


Whenever I work with families on setting up positive reinforcement systems in their home, I start with the end in mind by making sure that parents are PAIRING themselves with the external symbols of reinforcement they are delivering to their children.


The term PAIRING is commonly used in ABA to describe the process of associating yourself with a preferred item or activity so that YOUR words and presence become reinforcing without the extra prizes.


Three ways to pair with your child are…


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